Archive for October 2012

Solo vacationing- Guilin- The Train Ride   2 comments

China has two national holidays where we get a week off work as paid vacation.  One during Chinese Lunar New Year in January and one during the Mid Autum Festival in October.  Last year this holiday in October was news to me and I spent it wandering around Shanghai since I had only been in the country two weeks and made no plans to travel. This year, at least I knew it was coming, but it seemed that all my friends had previous plans.  I really wanted to see Guilin with its peaks and rivers- so I decided to take my first solo vacation. Ever.

Traveling in Golden Week as it’s affectionatly called is chaos.  Everyone travels.  That’s over a billion people. So maybe not all of them travel, but it sure seems like it. The prices sky-rocket too. Airline tickets, if not booked months in advance, are 4x the normal rate.  So while I was pricing flights and hotels and tours the idea came to me to take a slow train from Shanghai to Guilin. It was only 520 RMB, so about 90 USD one way.  It’s a sleeper train, so for part of the 19 hr journey I would be attempting to sleep…. I took one before to and from Beijing before the high-speed train and before domestic air travel was popular 12 years ago.. it wasn’t so bad so I decided to try it again. So with the help of a friend who booked it on-line for me I had my ticket…which is a feat since you can’t buy a ticket more than 12 days in advance on-line and 10 days in person.  I wasn’t able to book at return ticket, they were sold out on the day I wanted to return so I took a deep breath and got out my credit card and booked a flight home.  Next came the hotel and tours.  I opted for the Sheraton since it was centrally located and I was sure they would have a soft bed… and booked two drop in tours on-line.. one to the Longji terraced rice fields and one Li River cruise to see the karst mountains as seen on the back of the 20 RMB note.

When Monday finally rolled around I hailed a cab to the Shanhai South railway station and I was off on my adventure. The main railway station is about 10 mins from my house… that’s where some high-speed trains and some sleeper trains depart but the south station was all slow trains. When I arrived, 45 mins later, my train was already boarding… sweet!  I found my car and had to ask where my bunk was. As I made my way down the aisle lo and behold there is another lao wai (foreigner) sitting in the little jump seat in the hallway right outside my cabin. Looks like I am not the only crazy person out there.  My friends thought I was nuts for wanting to take the overnight train.. I was looking forward to it. 19 hrs with my iPad, books, TV shows, my journal and my thoughts.  Sounded like the perfect start to my first solo vacation.  Seeing the University of Michigan tag on some luggage I knew the other Westerner would be in my cabin. At least I would have someone to talk to.

As we started to get settled in, me on the top bunk, Michigan on the other top bunk and two Chinese guys on the bottom bunks I knew I had made the right choice. I had my own little nest and was looking forward to some deep thoughts- Jack Handy style. But given my outgoing nature, I spent the first 5 hrs chatting with the guy across from me, swapping stories of how we ended up in China, where we lived, how safe China was, where we like to party, etc. It was nice to have someone to chat with.

I decided I wanted to explore a little so I took a walk through the cars.  Now on a slow train there are several ‘classes’ of seats/tickets.  I was in soft sleeper.- 4 bunks to a room, and the room has a door.  There is also first class soft sleeper, two bunks to a room, but then there is hard class sleeper- 6 bunks to a room and your room doesn’t have a door.  I experienced that on the way home from Beijing 12 years ago and I won’t lie, I didn’t want to do it again.  The bunks are pretty close as you can imagine they are stacked 3 high, you can barely sit up.  And then there are seats. Yep. Seats. Kind of the like the seats in the dinning car, with a table. These are the cheapest seats and they are sold out during holiday travel times.  I made my way through all the soft sleeper cars, hard sleeper cars and found the seat car.  I decided not to wander in the seated area because it looked so crowded I didn’t think I could actually make it through, so I turned back around and made my way back to my car.  As I walked I could feel the stares… I could even hear kids saying “Mom, look at the foreigner”. Yes, dear little one, some of us laowai don’t want to pay an arm and a leg for airfare to get to Guilin. And yes, some of us speak Chinese.

On the train next to the bathrooms are little ‘wash up rooms’.  There are 3 sinks  per room, where you can wash your face, brush your teeth, wash your dinner dishes…  the bathrooms and wash up rooms are usually at the end of every other car, and in between cars is the ‘smoking’ area.. where guys would sit and puff away, scream on their cells phones and generally act Chinese.  Ah, the joys of train travel.

I didn’t eat dinner in the dining car, when I walked through the fare looked kinda sad so I just decided to dine on the plethora of snacks that I had packed for the trip, washed down with some warm Sprite I procured in the dinning car.  Warm PBR didn’t sound quite as yummy as warm Sprite.  It wasn’t until after some dinner/snacks did I settle in to read some of my book and write in my journal.  About an hour later I still wasn’t sleepy, so I broke down and watched the episode of Man Men I bought from iTunes and downloaded onto my iPad the day before… not very deep, I know, but I was attempting to get drowsy… and attempting to drown out the sounds of the bottom bunk dweller’s snores.  I was happy I packed my earplugs and sleep mask for sure now.. but man. That guy on the bottom had some serious sleep apnea going on.  They ban that stinky ass fruit durian on trains, can’t they ban dudes who snore so loud it can be heard three doors down?  I could seriously hear him on the way back from the bathroom… It was going to be a loooong night. I was wishing I had popped my Tylenol PM.  I finally fell asleep probably around 2 AM… and was woken up by the bottom bunk dwellers relatives and they came over to visit. At 7 AM.  After a futile attempt to fall back asleep I got up, rustled up my plastic mug and my instant coffee and went in search of the hot water. Once I had my steaming cup of Nescafe 2+1 I headed to the dining car.. knowing that I could find a seat and a table.    Once there I was told I couldn’t sit down.. so I asked “you still selling breakfast?” So for 10 RMB I bought myself a seat that came with some warmish buns, some congee and a hard-boiled egg.  As I ate my congee I watched the staff straggle in to eat their breakfast.

China tends to over staff just about everything.  The train was no exception. They have a person to man each door when we stopped at the various stations and scream “Get on the train” for 10 minutes before we would chug out of the station.. the reason I know this is that they also lock the bathrooms at each stop, so I got to wait and witness this twice during the journey.   The staff stay in the hard sleepers and they were all pretty young- I would say 18-20, so it gave off a college dorm vibe. Girls giggling and looking at the boys, the boys trying to ignore the girls and text on their cell phones.

After breakfast I had a few more hours to kill so I read some more… took some photos.. stared out the window at the countryside. When we finally pulled in, 2 hrs late, I bade goodbye to Michigan and made my way to the taxis…  I’ll explain the taxi ride in the next blog update.

Posted October 7, 2012 by colleeninshanghai in Uncategorized

…. one year later   1 comment

One year, 52 week, 365 days.. one revolution around the sun. How every you want to count the days, I have been in China for over a year now.  And what a year it has been.  It’s been fun, challenging, sad, scary and above all a learning experience.  When I made the choice to move abroad and take the job I knew I was doing it more for the life experience than for my career. I didn’t want to be a 75-year-old woman sitting on my porch wondering how my life would have been if I had taken the chance and moved to Shanghai.  I didn’t want to live with those regrets.  Everything that I have been through this year- moving, leaving friends and loved ones behind, making huge life changes, losing and gaining loved ones have made me a stronger woman.

I believe that I was strong to begin with. Hell, I packed up my life and moved to China. But coming here, meeting new people, learning a new city, being so far away from all I knew and loved forced me to change. All the boring clichés come to mind “Change is the only constant”, “If you stand still you die”, yada yada yada.. but man, let me tell you. They are kinda true. At 38 I can tell you I have grown more in this year than I have in the past 10.  I did not change my core beliefs or who I am really. I just found my voice with the help of some dear friends, and I learned that it is ok to ask for help, to demand it at times. I have learned it’s ok to be selfish and to tell people what I want and what I expect from them. As a ‘giver’ and a ‘nurturer’ I needed to learn how to surround myself with people who would give back and how to stay away from those that wouldn’t.

The biggest thing I learned is that is it not OK to live with regret. I don’t regret any decision I have made this year. Do I wish I had run more? Sure.  Do I wish I had traveled more? Sure.  Do I regret the Sundays spent on my couch surrounded by friends as we recover from a late night? No.  Do I regret the chances I have taken when I have failed? No. Do I regret going after what my heart wanted? No.

It is ‘Golden Week’ here, Chinese National Day Holiday and Mid Autum Festival all rolled into one.  We get a week off and everyone travels.  My closest friends are traveling, or gone home to the USA for good, so I am traveling solo to Guilin.  I am taking a 24 hr train down there, staying 2 nights, joining in on some drop in tours, and flying home. I have always wanted to go to Guilin and seeing that I am out of vacation time, this is the only chance I have to see it. So I am going alone. My bags are packed, my train and place ticket all booked. I am armed with my iPad, iPod and an old-fashioned journal and a pen.  I am going to take this time to reflect on all that I have been through this past year and think about where I am going in the next.

I’ll be sure to blog about the trip and update you all on all the things I haven’t yet put in here, like my love affair with street food and some other musings.  Until then, love and live my friends. Don’t let the fear of failure stand in your way. Don’t live with regret.

Posted October 1, 2012 by colleeninshanghai in Uncategorized